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HODGE PODGE of CLARKS
by Linda Sparks Starr
APR 1996
[Over the past few months I've received interesting and pertinent
comments on several topics. They've tended to pile up -- or got
filed away when the "cleaning bug" bit -- while I waited for time
to "update my updates". In hindsight I SHOULD HAVE kept a run
ning tab of comments which I sent all around on a regular basis.
I'm now starting one, "behind" as usual, but will try to keep up
as, hopefully, more stuff comes in. My apologies for not thinking
of this earlier. LSS]
To my question, "Is there any significance that a person named
Thomas CLARK was one of some 200+ people whose "headright" was
used for land in New Kent Co.? Mary Stewart wrote FEB 2: "Only
that there was someone named Thomas Clark who arrived at least
once in the colony at some time bef 1673. In other words, not
much significance." I should add that Mary has attended several
conferences where the land patent records were discussed. The
"transported" names on the patent records WERE NOT ALWAYS inden
tured servants.
In a later message Mary responded to my: "One thing I've noticed
in vol. II Nugent -- several patents were for land 'granted, but
not patented' to... another individual than the patentee. Can I
guess that the first individual did the necessary work to claim
the land, but for some reason didn't pay the money to finalize
it?"
"Not unusual. One of the requirements was that land be
settled -- i.e. acreage cleared, crops planted, house built and
occupied. If it was not, the original patent failed and someone
else could claim it. As an aside, settling the land frequently
took place long before it was patented. It is not unusual to
find a name appearing in county Order books (for instance) long
before there is any record of land ownership."
On Capt. Christopher's birth -- to my comment that we really
can't take the birth year "back" much farther than 1681, Mary
wrote: "I agree. I also think that the date of this patent may
account for Xpher's birthdate being set at 1681. However, if
this is *our* Xpher, AND an infant, why isn't there some adult in
this group who might be a family member? Do we have any evidence
of Xpher's birthdate (age given in a deposition, etc.)?
Back in early FEB, I sent a "Wanna Play Devil's Advocate?" ques
tion to a handful of researchers. As I remember it -- I didn't
keep a copy -- I was asking if there were two Christopher Clarks
-- one a Quaker and one an Anglican who was appointed overseer,
etc. which Quakers were generally barred from because of their
stance on oath-taking. Sue Wright has some interesting comments
and raises other issues along this line:
"I'm embarrassed that I've never noticed that Penelope would
have been 26 when Edward was born in 1710. (That's usually one
of the first things I check when looking at census listings --
was there a first wife, etc.) That certainly is a late age for a
first child to be born in that time period. As you point out,
many babies died in those days, so children born before Edward
are possible. While looking through my Clark folder, I noticed
that the reference I was using for the year of birth for Capt.
Christopher & Penelope's children was Mr. McConnell's work. I'm
not trying to open up yet another "can of worms", but how reli
able do you feel those dates are -- based on something factual or
merely estimates? I noticed that all are two years apart -- thus
the mere estimates possibility. Could Edward have been born
before 1710 and possibly some of the other children been born ear-
lier? There still could have been some more children who died as
babies, but I wouldn't think there would have been but maybe one
or two. A cousin... commented that the average number of
children for a woman to have during that time period (and
presumably not die in childbirth) was seven. I'm sure there were
exceptions."
The next day Sue commented specifically upon Christopher's young
age to be appointed overseer: "do you think possible if say the
family was well established in the area? In other words, if
Christopher came from a good, reliable family? Or, if he had
good connections -- either by blood or marriage?
Part of my question came from a Christopher Clarke being claimed
as headright by Mr. Nicholas Ware -- patent date 22 SEP 1682;
the land he received was on the north side of Mattaponi in NKCo.
I wondered if this Christopher was the one the earlier entries
referred to, and the later ones Capt. Xpher. But after reading"
Place in Time: Middlesex Co., VA 1650-"by historians Dar
rett B. and Anita H. Rutman, Norton: NY 1984, I changed my mind.
They used as an example a person born 1680, who was orphaned at
eight and bound out; he married a widow DEC 1706 (thus acquiring
land) and was appointed an overseer in 1708. Capt. Xpher was
born c1681 and was apptd surveyor in 1706 and overseer c1708.
His marriage to Penelope, though specific year is unknown, is in
the first decade of 1700.
While on this book, here's another statistic which is of inter
est. (page 114) "Almost half (48 percent) of the children born
in this county through 1689 lost one or both parents by their
ninth birthday and almost two-thirds (61 percent) by their thir
teenth... Of... children born 1690 through 1709, 43 percent
lost at least one parent by age nine and 60 percent by age
thirteen."
Back in JAN Sue and Martha Wright followed up on my sugestion we
should see just how many other "Penelopes" appear in the New Kent
area who could as easily be Xpher's wife. Sue looked at the in
dex for the St. Peter's Register and FOUND NO Penelope listed.
Neither was Christopher or Jonathan CLARK listed in the index to
the Essex Co. Deed abstracts 1724-1742.
Sue also asked if anyone had considered if the Elizabeth CLARK
who signed the marriage certificate is a SISTER of Christopher?
Earlier researchers have positioned her as his wife. Sue's com
ment after checking Hinshaw's reference to the marraige certifi
cate: "Apparently Mr. Hinshaw split the record into two parts to
make separate entries for Chris. and Edward and his reading was
that Eliz. was connected to Chris. I would feel better about the
entry if I could see the actual record."
Continuing, she had re-read "The Albemarle Quakers" by Jay Wor
rall Jr. published in MAG of VA Genelaogy, AUG 1984, No. 3: "He
also states that Penelope died before Chris. (No. ref given) I
guess this could be possible because of the number of years be
tween the date his will was written and the date it was proved.
If we accept all the Chris. Clarke entries as the same man, the
flip-flop in Church affiliations is troubling. Based on the
times, I would think that someone who had broken with the
Anglican Church to join the Quakers would not have been welcomed
back into a prominent position in the Church later. I wonder if
it would help to sort all the Chris. Clarke entries chronologi
cally to see if such an analysis might point to there being two
Christophers? [I did, and it doesn't point to two Christophers
-- except for the religious flip-flop.]
Along this track, Martha Wright talked with a friend who is
knowledgable about Quaker records. Her friend says "if a
person's name appears in one of the registers (birth, marriage or
death) that person is a Quaker. However, if the name appears
among those signing that they had witnessed a wedding, then the
person may or may not be a Quaker." She added that many
Anglicans became Quakers in 1744 during the period of the Great
Awakening. [The original Quaker records are found at
Swarthmore College in PA. I should have the address, but I can't
find it right now.]
We continued the "what ifs" on the children's ages without resolv-
ing the issue. Worrell's article errs in that he has Edward born
last instead of first; but he has Agnes' birth in 1707 which
brings Penelope "down" to 23 when her first child was born. A
bit old for the times... but their oldest child could have died
without his birth being recorded (remembered) later. There are
discrepancies among all the publications on these children's
birth years.
I think I've commented upon the fact that most of Capt.
Chistopher's children "signed by mark" rather than wrote their
name. Back in JAN this interesting message came across va-roots:
"Prior to the 20th century, and absolutely prior to the 19th cen
tury, a signature was not considered valid without the signer set-
ting his hand (making his mark) and seal (using a wax seal). The
fact that someone made a mark does not necessarily reflect il
literacy, but may, in fact, reflect the desire to make a "legal"
signature." This was sent by Gareth L. Mark
Moving on to Thomas Clark as possible father of Capt. Chris
topher. I asked Mary Stewart if Thomas Clark could have claimed
the land, but died before he patented it, then others moving into
the area didn't intrude on his claim in right of his sons? She
responded, "Not likely. People were just as greedy then as they
are now!" She then urged me to be very careful about "assuming"
there were several Thomas Clarks "transported" (vol. II Nugent)
"It could be one person who travelled frequently (a merchant
for instance). Every time he got off a boat he got the equiv
alent of another certificate for 50 acres which he could then
sell to a land speculator (and there were lots of those!)
Headrights essentially prove nothing."
Doug Tucker makes the following points about the relationship be
tween these CLARKs and the Quakers and partly explains Xpher's
flip-flop in the religion dept.
"Francis Clark was a practicing Quaker, as were most of his
children. Edward's daughters married Quakers so Edward probably
was a Quaker as well. I think Christopher was raised as a
Quaker, but chose a path outside or on the fringes of the Society
for most of his adult life. Since he rejoined the Friends late
in life, we probably should consider him a 'latent' Quaker, a
category that may have fit Edward as well.
Edward Clark was married (wife's name probably Elizabeth)
and appears to have had several daughters who survived to adul
thood. I found no evidence of a surviving son. Edward Clark
died in Hanover Co. sometime between 1715 and 1719."
Adding another "source" to the Micajah Clark / Sallie Ann Moorman
legend, Doug says Christopher and Penelope's great-grandson
Thomas CLARK of Surry Co. NC (married Rhoda Dunegan) named a
daughter, Sally Ann Moorman Clark b. 1817. He adds this was a
full century before the "legend" was published.
Doug also gives information on a John CLARK of NC which I'll in
clude here for I'm leaving NC research to others. He says most
of Francis and Edward CLARK's children migrated to Anson Co. NC
between 1749 and 1770. "A mysterious John CLARK was one of the
larger landowners in the area of NC where Andrew MOORMAN settled
in 1747 and where [the above CLARKs]... settled later. Andrew
Moorman acquired his land from this John Clark as did Benjamin
Dumas, son-in-law of Francis Clark, and several other Quaker
migrants from Louisa Co.
John Clark was reportedly born in Bladen Co. along the Cape
Fear River in 1702. There was a Quaker settlement near the mouth
of the Cape Fear River as early as 1680 and though there is no
evidence that John Clark was a Qauker himself, several of his
children married Quakers (one a Clark) from Louisa Co. and joined
the Friends. Was this John Clark a blood relation?"
The question was raised on va-roots about legal ages; Martha
Wright answered David Sadler's general question, citing THE
SOURCE, by Arlene Eakle and Johni Cerny, Ancestry Pub Co: Utah,
1984, page 186: Witness documents, testify in court, choose a
quardian, serve as an apprentice, show land to processioners, be
punished for a crime, sign contracts, act as an executor, be
queath personal property, or marry: 14 (male) and 12 (female)
Be taxed or muster into militia: 16 (males only); Take pos-
session of land holdings: 16; 'In possession of' on tax rolls
signifies that the person is at least 16 years old; Practice
trade 18; Release of guardian: 21 (males) 18 (females); Own
land: 21, but some states allowed females to own land at 18;
devise land by will, be taxed, plead or sue in court, be natural
ized, fill public office, serve on jury or vote: 21.
I then raised specific questions about the 1698 order to
clear roads with Edward and Christopher Clark's name on it.
Charles Hamrick answered: "The only thing that can be known with
any degree of reliability is that both of the men were 16 years
old at the time the List of Tithables was taken."
I also asked if the appearance of a 'family' between Edward
and Xpher meant they each were heads of households. "The tith
able lists that I have transcribed usually list each individual
tithable and I assume he is the head of household unless specifi
cally named as in the household of another (e.g. 'living with').
Of course this may change from one jurisdiction to another... I
have noticed deceased property owners in quitrent listings (which
comes from the law that makes their heirs responsible for all in
debtedness and the property can't be conveyed to another until
those things are setttled) but dead people paid no taxes even
back when and were not found in a listing of tithables.
Charles then sent the specific law covering tithables from
vol. 2, page 83 Hening's VA STATUTES AT LARGE: "all male per
sons, or what age soever imported into the country shall be
brought into the lysts and be lyable to the payment of all taxes
... but such christians only as are either natives of this
country, or are imported free by their parents or others who
shall not be lyable to the payment of levyes until they be six
teen years of age..." For those online, his web page has more
Henings: http://www.aa.net/h~hamrick
A correction that I may have made, but probably didn't, to my
"Micajah Clark and Sallie Ann Moorman" update. The comment about
a Capt. Micajah Clark in Isle of Wight Co. is an error; just ig
nore the whole bit. I can identify Ralph Lock Taylor as the
grand-uncle of Paul B. Phelps. Taylor "was an enthusiastic
genealogist, but he wasn't a scholar" according to Paul.
On the subject of researching in England, Mary Stewart wrote the
end of FEB: "If we are ever able to connect back to England it
may be through investigating Thomas (Moorman) of Warwickshire and
what happened to him. I think this is the most interesting pos
sibility I've seen in a long time...and a whole new methodology
to learn. As for Capt. Chirstopher -- my gut tells me that Bar
badoes is the place to look, not VA. Too few records to estab
lish much of anything. Barbadoes may offer more fertile ground."
Another correction: I apparently gave credit to the wrong
researcher in a recent update -- Arlene Anthony is the one who
provided the intrigueing comment that Lord Shaftesbury's personal
physician was an ANTHONY. It's her research "which turned up the
full extent of Anthony/Clarke ties in Exeter, Devonshire,
England" according to Dave Goodwin. She brought back copies of
two CLARK wills which he promises to provide details to the rest
of us.
I asked Dave for an explanation of "Visitations" which he
provided from", Ancestry and "by L. G. Pine,
Gramercy Pub Co: NY 1985. Pine formerly edited"'s Peerage
and Burke's Landed "Briefly -- if anyone wants more
detailed explanation I did manage to save this message from Dave
which Jeffrey can forward to those on-line -- Visitations were
tours of inspection by heralds, conducted roughly once a genera
tion and covering one county as a time. They met with everyone
claiming to process a coat of arms; these had to provide proof
which the heralds could accept or reject. They began in 1529 and
ended in 1686. Over the years the heralds drew "rudimentary
pedigree charts" which they enlarged as the generations went by.
He ends "I do have a problem with the coat of arms which Nancy
Vashti Jacob Anthony presents in her books as possibly being that
for Christopher Clarke of VA, since she shows no source for her
information."
[And that's only from all the "stuff" I've filed in my various
CLARK folders! I have one large folder of the more recent e-mail
and letters which I haven't filed as yet. I have less MOORMAN
and only a dauble of CANDLER comments plus more on Quakers in
general. The JOHNSON data may entail more than I think for Dick
Baldauf's letters will be hard to condense, but less interesting
to the group for he's sorting out JOHNSONs trying to get to Ed
ward. I plan to "do" the "unfiled" folder last. LSS]
NOTE: Someone with more time than I have may want to get on the
list to receive "Issue No. 2" of West Indian Genealogy. I got
the first issue, but when I went to read the file, it wasn't
there -- and never followed through to get Jeffrey to locate it
on our disk! The person to contact if you didn't get the message
is Vaughn W. Royal
75231.511@CompuServe.com
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A few years ago Caitr`iona and I started to integrate our various skill-sets. We were already excited about helping people make big changes, but something was missing.
We wanted to bring big picture thinking, and a natural ongoing awareness into people's lives so that it stuck. "What is the most effective and accessible way to bring about authentic, long-lasting, positive change?" was the question that we were asking ourselves.
We had been teaching meditation retreats for a long time, and we are still impressed at how deeply meditation and mindfulness training can transform people's lives. However, we also noticed that there are many people who are drawn to meditation, not because they are contemplatives or visionaries, but because they are natural introverts. They come to meditation for comfort.
If you are a natural introvert, meditation might actually not be the most direct way to make meaningful change in your life. In fact, it can hold you back.
Then there are others who find meditation difficult, even though they may be naturally visionary, and very much in touch with the power of their imagination, very driven, and very much aware that the deepest change comes from inside.
We knew there was something more we could do that would bring lasting positive change to a far wider range of people than we were reaching.
So we began experimenting. In addition to being Zen and Vipassana teachers of many years standing, we were Hypnotherapists, we were trained in NLP. We had already been bringing other elements into the meditation, to broaden the context and make it more applicable to everyday life. In addition, I am both an artist and a martial artist. I've taught non-violence in a range of settings over many years. There is no way I can avoid bringing these perspectives into the work.
WHAT IS FIVE CHANGES?
Five Changes is born out of the range of perspectives and skills we have developed over the years. It is a deliberate integration of skills for long-lasting powerful change. It works for anyone who is ready to get out of their own way, step into their unique brilliance, and live their life, not at 50% or 75%, but at full throttle.
By the way, it is far less stressful to live at 100%, because when you are in alignment, when the activity of your conscious and unconscious mind match each other, you tap into new sources of energy and creativity.
People ask WHAT the Five Changes are:
* They are the Five Principles for Change.
* They are the Five different modalities that we have integrated.
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* They are the Five Precepts - the five guidelines for living with awareness and integrity
* They are the Five areas of your life where change happens.. in work, with family and friends, in romance, with physical and emotional health, and in your inner "spiritual" world..
I would also like to say that there are at least five things any one of us could usefully change in their life. But when you really change one of them, all the others will shift in unison. Because each of us is a system. The way we work in Five Changes is to look at the whole person, and to work with each person as a unique living inter-connected whole system.
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HYPNOSIS AND NLP IN ACTION: ANCHORS AWAY
An anchor is a term used in hypnosis and nlp, which stands for what in psychology calls a conditioned stimulus. An anchor is the stimuli which was pared with an unconditioned stimuli or resourceful state or resourceful response. Then we can produce the anchor (stimuli) and produce the state at will. You can also stack anchors.
For instance, if the response you want to produce is not powerful enough, then anchoring several similar responses you would like to produce and then combining them into a single anchor where they all fire off at once could be useful. One could also create a series of anchors or a chain of anchors. This can be done a few different ways, but generally this is where one response triggers another and so on. If you are familiar with behaviorism or Applied Behavior Analysis, then one useful way of thinking about this is behavior chains and conditioning.
HYPNOSIS AND NLP: PROPULSION SYSTEMS
Propulsions systems are exactly what they sound like. It is something that propels something towards something. Many in the field of Hypnosis and NLP with almost instantly think of Meta Programs. I got something to tell you we are always going towards or away from something, but what is important is what we focus on and what works. Anyways, one can use chaining anchors to create a propulsion system. However, the trick is to make it so it seduces you or the client.
So, that the process and the goal is irresistible. That way it continues to propel you or them completely through the steps needed to achieve the goal or behavior the propulsion system is in. One useful method is to create several small propulsion systems, which make up a much larger propulsion system. Of course, this is also dependent on how complex the behavior or goal is.
HYPNOSIS AND NLP: CHAINING ANCHORS AND BUILDING A PROPULSION SYSTEM
Just like doing any thing else in hypnosis and NLP one needs to know what, where and how they are going to do something before doing it. So first, one needs to define what behavior or goal they want to use with the propulsion system. Then one needs to know what anchors are they going to chain or stack and then chain. Then one needs to decide what order they want the chain of anchor to fire off in. Yes, it is a good idea in many cases to use separate anchors at first to create the chain of anchors.
Now, it is time to get to work. Do the anchoring, setting up the chain of anchors, adding in the chain of anchors to where you are going to put it. Then it is time to do all the normal stuff you do in Hypnosis and NLP, like an ecology check, make sure it is working and generalize it where needed. This is where things like nested loops are really handy. However, that is a different subject, but this is the hypnosis and nlp blog, so click where it says nested loops if you want to know more about nested loops or hypnosis or nlp.
Hypnosis And NLP: Building A Simple Propulsion System
Hint: When picking resourceful mental states. It is easy to start out with using examples of things that already motivate you. If needed add more than three examples. You can also stack anchors, but I suggest starting out as simple as possible. If you need to make any adjustments afterwards, then it will be relatively easy to do so.
Step 1: Identify what goal or behavior you want to put the propulsion system in.
Step 2: Define explicit steps to do this behavior or achieve this goal in simple small steps.
Step 3: Identify three resourceful mental states.
Step 4: Anchor each resourceful mental state in at-least two submodalities (Senses).
Step 5: Test the anchors to make sure they work. If they do not repeat steps 1-4.
Step 6: Imagine the first step to begin going towards the goal or to begin the behavior.
Step 7: Fire off the anchors in their desired order and repeat three times.
Step 8: Test if thinking about it produces the response the anchors produce in order.
Step 9: If it did not produce the anchored responses, then repeat steps 3-8.
Step 10: Go to the next step and fire off anchors in the desired order and repeat 4 times.
Step 11: Continue through each step repeating firing off each anchor in order one extra time than the last until complete.
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I come from a long line of drama queens. My family could create drama out of going to the supermarket. They also drank a lot which enhanced this tendency.
Let's face it, many of us who have staggered about in the realm of addictive or blow-your-mind substances, have a predisposition towards catastrophizing. Something in us enjoys creating volcanic eruptions out of molehills. Even many of us who have heroically extricated ourselves from substance misuse or abuse have failed to let go the accompanying tendency to see the world in terms of flash crashes, trench warfare, bubonic plague, and other extreme events.
Even though we may be consciously inclined towards the Middle Path and serenity, our unconscious minds hurtle us relentlessly into series upon series of melodramas.
Melodrama, a theatrical term, derives from the Greek word melo, which means music. In theatre, emotions are exaggerated and the storyline is full of exciting events. Many of us would secretly delight in a sound-track to accompany our life performances.
Drama addicts tend to exaggerate, embroider and amplify events in order to draw attention to themselves and/or their world. Sometimes there is a desire to shock, whether by acting out or in telling the story of someone else's drama.
In the grip of a melodrama the breath becomes shallow, adrenalin kicks in, and the drama addict feels energized and alive. So it can be a challenge for many addicts to stick with meditation. The lurking core belief is that without drama, life would be boring; without telling stories of dramatic events, you would be boring.
Rollercoaster emotions may initially feel energizing but eventually they deplete us. Too much adrenaline and cortisol flooding the system eventually creates a worn out, flat and bored organism.
If we are able to actually identify that we are addicted to drama, meditating regularly may be able to help us move away from our own TV soap opera.
A good strategy in addressing addiction to drama is to reduce our expectations. Conscious and sub-conscious expectations can and do create a world of hurt. When I wait for the bus, I expect it to appear. When it does not appear, a melodramatic reaction arises. Behaving in an overdramatic manner each time an expectation is thwarted adds nothing constructive. Eliminating the expectation and relaxing into what actually is can liberate us from the tyranny of self.
When we behave as fixed entities complete with desires that must be satiated right here, right now, we see the world in terms of what we can extract from it physically, mentally and emotionally. When we crave less and demand less, we find we can love more and accept more. We move from the realm of frustrated hungry ghosts to the realm of equanimity. Appreciating what we have instead of clamouring for what we want, we can abide in plenty, well-being, kindness and beauty.
When we have fewer expectations, melodramas are less frequent. We find we are more able to allow things to be the way they are without needing to adjust or control outcomes.
Meditation sharpens our sense of interconnectedness and process. It helps us move from chipped mug half-empty to exquisite goblet half-full - a necessary step if we are to survive as a species.
The philosopher Bertrand Russell wrote:
"In fact the whole antithesis between self and the rest of the world, which is implied in the doctrine of self-denial, disappears as soon as we have any genuine interest in persons or things outside ourselves. Through such interests a man comes to feel himself part of the stream of life, not a hard separate entity like a billiard-ball, which can have no relation with other such entities except that of collocation. All unhappiness depends upon some kind of disintegration or lack or integration; there is disintegration within the self through lack of co-ordination between the conscious and the unconscious mind; there is lack of integration between the self and society where the two are not knit together by the force of objective interests and affections. The happy man is the man who does not suffer from either of these failures of unity, whose personality is neither divided against itself nor pitted against the world. Such a man feels himself a citizen of the universe, enjoying freely the spectacle that it offers and the joys that it affords, untroubled by the thought of death because he feels himself not really separate from those who will come after him. It is in such profound instinctive union with the stream of life that the greatest joy is to be found."
Meditation helps to bring the drama addict into the generally drama-free reality of the present moment. Reality reflects back to us that despite our out-of-control emotions and thoughts we are, in that very moment, clothed, fed, and sheltered and not at risk of war, famine or any other impending apocalypse.
When we sit with our present experience, whatever that may be, without judgment or commentary, and become aware on the level of sensation just what is going on emotionally, we may find that, maybe for the first time ever, we are actually capable of resting in great, natural peace. If we are able to stop our incessant, blind attraction to danger and chaos, even for a moment, we may experience, from the depths of our being, pure, unadulterated relief.
We may lurch back into old autopilot habits of over-dramatizing, but we have briefly experienced another way, which is not boring or grey after all, but deeply restful and nourishing. All we need to do is make a new habit, one of commitment, to going back to that place on a daily basis.
We may not feel like doing this. We may be tired, angry, distracted, hungry, lonely or stressed. But we don't have to believe every emotion or thought that we have. As with NA/AA meetings, we just show up. As we sit, day in and day out, steadfast as the rising and the setting sun, we gradually develop discriminating wisdom which helps us to decide which emotions and thoughts are in our own best interest and which are not. Mastery of the mind entails rejecting those thoughts not in alignment with our values. We can also identify emotions and thoughts that help in strengthening our purpose.
Serenity is the opposite of melodrama, and the dualistic nature of our universe whispers to us that the kernel of the one lies dormant in the other. All we need to do is incubate serenity by carefully laying it under our meditation cushion before we sit and trusingt that our minds will gradually incline towards peace. Read More @ Source
Sure, Valentine's Day is all about hearts...
But the most precious heart of all is the one that keeps us all alive. Because little girls deserve to be SILLY, PLAYFUL, AND HAPPY. Little girls deserve to grow up without heart disease robbing them of grandmothers, mothers, and their own chance to grow up and grow old.
We're joining I Faces in featuring the color red, for GO RED FOR WOMEN.
FEBRUARY 14TH - RED
It's as week of love around here! Let's celebrate Valentine's Day in a bright, vibrant, fun way while also spreading the word about a fantastic cause... Go Red for Women.You must have a human face clearly showing in your photo entry...and the color red.
THIS WEEK'S CHALLENGE IS IN SUPPORT OF GO RED FOR WOMEN.
Cardiovascular disease claimed the lives of NEARLY 500,000 AMERICAN WOMEN EACH YEAR, yet women were not paying attention. In fact, many even dismissed it as an "older man's disease." To dispel the myths and raise awareness of heart disease as THE NUMBER ONE KILLER OF WOMEN, the American Heart Association created "Go Red For Women" - a passionate, emotional, social initiative designed to empower women to take charge of their heart health.GO RED FOR WOMEN ENCOURAGES AWARENESS OF THE ISSUE OF WOMEN AND HEART DISEASE, AND ALSO ACTION TO SAVE MORE LIVES."FIND OUT HOW YOU CAN HELP OR "GIVE TO THIS CAUSE HERE"."
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1. Who cares?
People will give you all of this terrible advice (all the time) about how you'll find the "one" when you're not really looking. I'm never looking and I still haven't found the one. Or that you need to love yourself before someone loves you. Oh please, people loved me when I was 14 and had braces and pimples - and I definitely didn't love myself then!
But the truth is, when you want something to happen - and this applies to everything in life - you actually need to try. So if you want a dating life, you need to do something about it. You need to motivate yourself to get off the couch, put on some pants and sit across from Mr. Wrong about 45 times before you find Mr. Right.
And don't do this unless you're ready to do this. And you'll know when you're ready to this simply because the thought of online dating won't make you nauseous and you will actually be excited to be set up with a friend of a friend of a friend.
2. Social media is a lie
People only post the really, really good or the really, really bad. Don't let someone's hashtags or smooching photos freak you out. They didn't post about their terrible dates or their heartbreaks or the amount of times they fully swore they'd be alone forever before they found the one.
3. You're not alone
You're not the only person who feels perpetually single or the only person who feels like they are never, ever going to find anyone. I'm not saying we should all form some kind of support group where we meet once a week and cry in each others shoulders. I'm just saying we should accept that there is nothing wrong with us.
4. There's no one right way to live
Back in the '50s, women were married at 18 and their career was raising a family. Now, women build careers before they build a family. And there's nothing wrong with either path. Your life, and how you live it, is your choice. So don't compare your timeline of events to your (Facebook) friend's.
5. Appreciate what you have
That's the hardest part, isn't it? Next time someone asks you "Why are you single?", You can say: Well, I don't know... but here's why I have this awesome job. Or, "Here's what my awesome friends and i have planned for Labor Day." Or, "Here's this awesome app that I just spent seven months building." We are more than just our relationship status. Don't forget that.
6. Be happy for other people
Try, really try hard. Jealously is a terrible feeling. Really, it is. And I'll be the first to admit, when a friend calls me to let me know they just got engaged, my first thought is I lost another one. But then, right after that, I'm in tears because I really am so happy for them. I've been there with them from the start. I was there before they met their fianc'e. I was there when they went on 27 bad dates. And all in all, I know - well, I just hope - that all of these friends who are engaged will be there for me one day, if I do meet the man of my dreams, to dance the electric slide and the cupid shuffle and the Harlem shake with me at my wedding some day.
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Did my title raise your eyebrow? Perhaps you are wondering who I am to write about relationships and dating. Well, my most precious relationship went as far as fifteen years and would have even gone farther if it weren't for death. Yes, I lost my wife two years ago and I am currently trying to keep my life normal. Also, as what my friends suggest, I gave dating a shot in case I can still find luck in love. This piece is here to share my experiences in meeting new people to those who lost love and who still hope to find love.
TRY TO PAY BOOKSTORES, MUSEUMS AND LIBRARIES A VISIT. For sure, you'll find in here someone who is intellectual enough to understand your past and still willing enough to accept you for who you are. Meet people in these places, you'll surely have something in common to talk about. That is one thing relationships are about- something you have in common. You might just get blessed and find love.
RESUME TALKING OVER A CUP OF COFFEE. If you have already met someone, ask if you can have coffee together. This is a less stressful way of continuing your talk. Find love in a relaxed environment like coffee shops. Just like when I enjoyed a stimulating conversation with an intelligent woman the other night in a shop near office. You never know when you're going to have your relationships.
ASK QUESTIONS AND SHOW INTEREST ABOUT WHAT YOUR DATE IS TELLING YOU. Find love in listening to your date's stories and at the same time, share your own ideas and opinions. Relationships usually start with getting to know your partner better. Lucky for me, my date the other night is interested to aircrafts because her brother is also an aircraft engineer like me. She told me next week she'll arrange a dinner for me to meet her brother. See? When you pay attention to what your date is saying, you'll have a chance for a second date or so.
ASK YOUR DATE TO JOIN YOU IN A CHALLENGE. Relationships boom when two persons can relate with each other. Propose an activity to your date that the both of you haven't tried. It can be going on a wall climbing, a zip line or going to a mountain. Find love in the most adventurous circumstance.
NOT JUST INTELLECT BUT HUMOR. You may start having relationships to someone who is as intellectual as you but it is brilliant if the two of you can share humor. I mean, make each other laugh. This is to avoid getting dull moments and start to find love with each other.
There you go - the things I do to keep going with my life without my wife. I am sure she would understand that I need relationships to nourish my needs. I have found her in an unimaginable way and I hope I can still find love again in the least expected way. I bet she's praying for that too.
Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):John Nash - Reflections On The Divine Feminine
Cucan Pemo - You Can Save Your Relationship And Marriage
Susan Gillpatrick - Common Relationship Mistakes And How To Fix Them
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To help our users get the most out of Jzoog, we decided to get advice from the experts: professional matchmakers and dating coaches. We asked them 8 questions that we hope will give you some guidance in preparing an awesome online profile and succeeding in finding love online (hopefully on Jzoog!).
Our expert today is Michelle Frankel, owner of NYCity Matchmaking and a matchmaker right here on Jzoog. Michelle's answers follow each question.
1.WHAT ARE THE FIRST 3 QUESTIONS MEN ASK ABOUT POTENTIAL DATING PARTNERS?
- Why is she single
- Is she cute
- Is she drama free
2. WHAT ARE THE FIRST 3 QUESTIONS WOMEN ASK ABOUT POTENTIAL DATING PARTNERS?
-Why is he single
-How tall is he
-Is he employed/financially secure
3. WHAT PART OF AN ONLINE PROFILE DO YOU THINK IS THE MOST IMPORTANT FOR MEN? WOMEN?
PICTURES (for both Men and Women). NYCityMatchmaking works with an amazing photographer. Having 'Natural' yet Professional photos taken is the #1 investment you can make for online dating success.
4. IS IT OK FOR WOMEN TO MESSAGE MEN FIRST?
Absolutely- but it should be concise, creative and specific to the person you are emailing. The generic - "I liked your profile" is not effective.
5.WHAT ARE SOME BIG MISTAKES MEN MAKE ON THEIR ONLINE PROFILES?
Negativity. No one wants to meet someone who has a negative attitude about dating or online dating. Save that for the shrink. Your profile should convey optimism. Also lying about your height won't get you too far. Women will figure it out as soon as you meet in-person. Be honest and upfront.
6.What are some big mistakes women make on their online profiles?
Lying about their age. The truth is going to be revealed so you might as well be honest from the get go. I can appreciate women wanting to alter their age to come up in searches. Nonetheless, you still should always be honest and reveal your true age somewhere in your profile.
7. WOULD YOU SHARE AN ONLINE DATING SUCCESS STORY YOU'VE BEEN INVOLVED IN?
NYCity Matchmaking has helped 100s of people succeed on line. Through Profile Makeovers and new Photos- this past year we have helped many meet their "Beshert" online with 5 becoming engaged. Sometimes you need an objective fresh eye to review and give your profile the edge it needs to stand out.
8. WHAT'S ONE PIECE OF ADVICE YOU'D SHARE WITH ALL THOSE LOOKING FOR LOVE ONLINE?
It is a marathon not a sprint. I ultimately met my husband online but I did online dating for years and went on more dates than I can recall. Don't get frustrated or give-up.
Open up your parameters. Your perfect partner may be an inch shorter or taller than your search parameters. Throw out that check list you may surprise yourself who you really connect with.
(oops I guess that is 2 pieces of advice)
THANKS MICHELLE FOR YOUR SUPER HELPFUL INSIGHTS AND ADVICE!
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If the thought of hypnosis interests you, you might consider conversational hypnosis training. You can easily learn the art of hypnotizing people that you know and interact with. You can find training for this through several mediums. You may choose to study with a book, DVD, or ebook. If you choose to do this training, you should find a training course that has been reviewed and has been proven to be effective. This will ensure you a better success rate.
Conversational hypnosis uses common conversation to hypnotize people that you are interacting with. It works though word choice, tone of voice and emotional appeals. You will find that you can persuade your friends and co-workers to assist you with anything you suggest.
The great thing about conversational hypnosis training is that you can learn it in your own home, on your own time using an ebook or DVD. Conversation hypnosis is a powerful skill since most people are unaware that you are learning to manipulate them.
Conversational hypnosis is used more often than you realize. Marketers, advertisers, and salesmen use the power of words on a regular basis in order to make emotional requests of their customers. They are practicing a kind of conversational hypnosis by placing the buyer in a mild trance-like state and persuading them to buy things on impluse. If you're in one of these sales or marketing fields, conversational hypnosis is an important talent to possess.
Conversational hypnosis is not that difficult to learn. Once you have your eBook or DVD series, study the techniques presented and start applying them regularly. The more time and effort you put into your conversational hypnosis training, the better you'll get at it. Before long you'll be able to influence people's actions without them ever being aware of being hypnotized.
You can also choose to find an instructor if you learn better through one-on-one lessons or working with a small group face-to-face. Use the Internet to find schools near you that provide conversational hypnosis training. They may also refer to this training as covert hypnosis training. You should contact any school before enrolling to learn more about the course of study and the instructor. This will help you find the best class for you.
When you finish your conversational hypnosis training, you'll have the knowlege to put your skills to the test. Apply your brand new abilities to hypnotize others and they won't even being aware that you're doing it. Imagine being able to communicate with your family, friends, and coworkers on a subconscious level. Conversational hypnosis is exceptionally commanding and useful in a wide range of circumstances.
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One of the most important aspects you will find out about on an NLP Practitioner training is that EVERYBODY lives in their own MODEL OF THE WORLD. This is a kind of psycho-cultural jargon that really needs to be explained and exemplified. a key stone in "SPONSORING BETTER AND IMPROVED RELATIONSHIPS "and all the fruits this can offer.
Specifically the improved relationships you want with your children, your partner and you peers and possibly even yourself.
I have recently worked with a very bright and transforming young person who is very much in the process of orientating and integrating their own ideas, beliefs and rationalisation in the mist of a very messy divorce between their parents.
I think very sadly, as reported, said person, is receiving contradictory messages, matter of facts and damming accounts that are funnelled in a kind or Either Or way.
No child should be required to endure this kind of push me, pull you in this context. Thing is they are, so, how can this be transformed into something much more constructive and generative?
To take a step back,briefly, before going forward, another way to attempt to get this idea across was made very famous by Lord Alfred Korzybski in his works related to language and how it conveys, or tries to, relate language to experience "and" the meanings people make from experience. OK here we are again. What Alfy said was "The Map Is Not The Territory." And everybody has their own individual and to some very large extent culturally shared maps.
OUR CULTURE - OUR RULES - YOUR INDOCTRINATION
A very recent BBC 'news' item delivering information about the current situation in Syria came to mind.
This can be interpreted or made sense of like this. Our words, our memories our beliefs and internal mental maps, cultural and individual, that are quite literally constructed or made up so that we can in some way make sense of our experience in our immediate environment.
I have done my best, in metaphor and direct examples, to sponsor the idea that all people have their own motivations, their own beliefs and that both, for that person is valid and their reality. I have also explored Syria in context with Northern Ireland and how children can be indoctrinated to an either / or culture. They were already ahead of the game because they were already using the clause 'yes but in some situations '
Our brains or more accurately our whole nervous system is geared up to abstract or assimilate the cultural norms of our society. It is very easy to look upon what is happening in Syria with disdain or contempt for a pretty disgusting use of sentient beings by sentient beings. But, look into the past ( less than 100 years ) of the racial hatred between factions of people in Northern Ireland.
One persons terrorist is another persons freedom fighter and both while probably having similar ethnocentric values and beliefs have radically different values and beliefs when projected on warring factions.
MANAGING EMOTIONS AND EXPLORING YOUR VALUES
Jean Piaget, a famous developmental psychologists research states people mature through four stages of emotional, cultural and necessarily behavioural development. These are known as Sensory Motor ( 0-2 ), Pre Operational ( 2-7), Concrete Operational ( 7-11 ) and Formal Operational ( 11 to adult ). What this means is through a natural series of normal evolutions we all go from ego centric to ethno centric to free thinking adults.
At the stage of Concrete Operational, young children learn that their view or perspective is not the only one. This stage involves taking on the perspectives of other people. At the Formal operational level, young adults begin to be able to think about thinking and it is at this stage, become aware that they can introspect about cultural, familial and ethnocentric beliefs.
One of the touching poems about this is by Thich Nhat Hanh, Please Call Me By My True Names
MANAGING BETTER RELATIONSHIPS
Having discovered that one perspective will not and can not fit all, we are able to take another's perspective. We are in the privileged position to be able to, through imagination, knowledge of culture and identification of other peoples values and beliefs ( which as as concrete or flimsy as our own ) to momentarily play at being someone else; taking on their beliefs,values, concerns and righteous ( as ours ) behaviour. By being many-perspectival we can do compassion. This does NOT mean all views or perspectives are equal, it means we can more better appreciate and respect where someone, anyone is coming from.
This very deep and very human understanding, or compassion, can be sponsored with a variety of NLP techniques such as 'Perceptual Positions, Dilts' Meta Mirror, Metaphors or stories that create the vicarious experiences of often very deep and realisations that help us grow as generatively as human beings.
MANAGING AND PRESERVING RELATIONSHIPS
This requires a next step which is both less and more easy. This is about discovering the purpose or intention that drove another person ( or you ) to act in a certain way. Perhaps a topic for another post. Simple to sya this is ALL about understanding that motivations and drives are expressed in various forms. When the forms don't seemingly match we are into the space of negotiation. Thank you for reading.
NLP TRAINING IN NEWCASTLE
Three NLP Training courses are available during the year. January to June is 18 days, April is 9 days over three modules and one later in the year. NLP Practitioner training is a prerequisite to Clinical Hypnothrapy Training in August. All NLP courses in Newcastle are the same price.
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So how's your sex life? As busy as you want it to be? If not, relax; science is starting to crack the code of why you aren't getting laid on the reg, and The Art of Charm is on the case. If you're looking to polish up your game, take note of these things that are keeping you from sealing the deal. Then fix them.
1. You Have Colored or Crooked Teeth
Whitening strips aren't just for actors and models anymore. A recent study at two British universities found that nearly every woman wants a guy with white teeth. If your teeth are spaced unevenly or crooked, you might want to see an orthodontist: Women aren't into that, either.
2. You Have a High-Pitched Voice
It's not a Western thing, it appears to be universal: Women prefer men with deep voices. The thinking is that a deep voice is more associated with masculine qualities and high testosterone. If you sound like a chipmunk, hire a voice coach to help you develop a more baritone timbre.
Never compliment a woman on her looks when you first meet her. She already knows you think she's hot. She wants to know that you're into who she is.
3. You Smell... Average
Science isn't really sure which smells are a turn-on for which sex, but they are sure that smell has a lot to do with attraction. For example, it's the "smell" of female tears that turn men off, not watching a woman cry. Our advice: Look for a manly scent that isn't all that common. Women remember what you smell like probably more than anything else. If you're (still) using Axe Body Spray, you smell like every other guy at the club. Not good.
4. You Complimented Her Looks
One of the hard and fast rules we tell men: Never compliment a woman on her looks when you first meet her. She already knows that you think she's hot. She wants to know that you're into "who" she is. Research backs the notion that if you tell a woman she's beautiful, she's going to be less interested. Instead, compliment something about her personality. You can go on about how hot she is after you've scored.
5. You're Too Nice
Any pickup artist will tell you that being too nice or meek is a game killer, and science agrees.Two separate studies showed guys who are impulsive, live for kicks and don't seek female approval are more likely to get the girl. So first, be exciting. Show her new things. Take chances. Make her feel excited emotionally and she's going to be excited sexually. Second, don't suck energy out of a relationship by looking for her approval. Getting approval from within is the very essence of confidence, and she's going to love you for it.
This isn't exactly what we meant when we said "take chances."
6. You're Not Moody Enough
Women dig moody and brooding men. This doesn't mean that you should pout. On the contrary, it means that you should cultivate an air of mystery with your silence. And whatever you do, don't be stressed out-that's a massive attraction killer.
7. You Haven't Been Eating Your Fruits and Vegetables
As with most things, you should listen to mom. Getting enough fruit and veggies will have your skin looking better and if you don't think that women will notice that, you've got a whole lot to learn about the fairer sex.
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Amazon Description:
"Ask Elizabeth" is the complete guide to teen life; the last and only self-help book they'll ever need. Inspired by the many workshops Elizabeth Berkley has conducted with over 30,000 teen girls across the country, "Ask Elizabeth" brings the spirit of these conversations to life on the page.
Much like a private diary, the book will be a personal resource that girls can turn to when they seek answers to teen life's toughest questions.
The content contains real and practical advice, anecdotes and wisdom in answer to the most asked questions from girls who participate in Elizabeth's workshops such as: what do you do when you look in the mirror and don't like what you see? or How do you get over a broken heart? Elizabeth, along with a panel of experts, and teen girls themselves advise readers in matters of body image, personal relationships, dating, and much more."
Review: I'll come right out and say it: Ask Elizabeth is an absolutely gorgeous book...and that's the best thing this book has going for it. That's not to say that Berkley's advice is bad or unrealistic, but none of it is anything girls haven't heard before.
What may be unusual, however, is that Berkley's voice is conversational in an appealing way - she's like your best friend's older sister who has decided you're cool enough to hear all her best kept secrets. The book works well that way. Except, I found myself wishing that I heard more of Berkley's voice and less of the frequent and unnecessary quotes from teens. The letters from girls who had interesting stories were valuable, but I found the two page spread per chapter with quotes from teenage girls to be frivolous. When everyone's personal experience begins to sound the same, you know you may have too many stories on your hands.
The design of this book though, is absolutely stunning. I could rave on about it forever. The layout is logical, the images and design are all beautiful and they fit as a cohesive piece. The book is worth buying just to keep out on your coffee table to peruse through when you're bored and need someone to reiterate all the things you know about self esteem in a pretty, pretty voice. In fact, I'm contemplating doing that myself just so I can have a friend to accompany me along with the raw cookie dough in the dark days.
Overall: If you're female, need some nice moral support with a pretty cover on it, and you think you'll be able to respect anything written by the woman who played the main character of what's known as the worst movie of all time, pick this up! It's worth the perusal, I promise.
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Breakups and divorces are hard to deal with; nearly each person in their life has had to deal with it at one time or another. Breakups can be a strange thing. The first time is generally the hardest and as you become accustomed to them, they should become easier but they don't become easier.
Most people, who suffer from a breakup, desire to have their ex back in their life. This goes for good and bad relationships. If you're coming out of a bad relationship that was violent, either physically or emotionally, leave the relationship alone completely. Do not rekindle this kind of relationship. If you're out of it with your life intact, consider yourself one of the lucky ones.
However if you keep asking yourself, "how can I get my ex husband back", chances are you still have deep feelings for him and want to have them back so that you're happy once more. Desperation to get out of this kind of relationship funk can cause you to make major mistakes, which can lead you to have more pain. When the relationship ended, you had a mix range of emotions; you may have felt anger as well as love all at the same time.
So if you're asking yourself, "how can I get my ex husband back" consider what you should not do. The first thing you should never do is beg and whimper to get your second chance. If you push your ex husband too hard for that second chance, you may just succeed in losing him entirely. Don't let this happen to you.
Instead, take some time apart to release any tension in the air. Space and giving one another a breather is the best thing for you both. When you're trying to win your ex husband back, it's imperative that time cools those heated emotions. Make them miss you. You can't do this if your ex sees you all the time.
If you're asking yourself "how can I get my ex husband back" find out what happened in the relationship that kept you two from being able to keep the relationship going. Once you've worked through it, take some take out to fix the problems. If the relationship is worth it, then you'll do what you can to work the problems out.
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When it comes to handling pressure, dating is an example that can post too much pressure to us. These pressures may lead to either development of ourselves but if we are not able to handle it in the right way, it can also ruin us.
Dating involves two people who are connected with their feelings to come together and get to know each other in a deeper sense. Pressures of dating someone can be experienced before the dating itself wherein people are pressured to look good, to say the right things and act in a way that it can be attractive to your prospect date. Another source of pressure is the society that we are living in, they set the standards on the dating itself; it should be conducted this way or should not be in this place and many more.
Pressures are there to add some spice to our lives. Living itself is a big pressure because we have to survive for us to experience the things that we would want. It will then be a boring life if we live our lives with no pressures and problems, because without them, we cannot develop as humans.
Dating is an experience that is worth all its costs, whatever we get from it will eventually mold us and improve what we already have. Pressures are normal, a person should not take them too seriously such that it would be handled effectively. A way to handle these dating pressures is to have a social life to be able to release all the tensions that can result from it.
