Girlfriend Male Friend

So I've been seeing this girl for much more than a year now, and it's been a roller coaster, like no other. Initially, things were going great, as they always seem to go, but then her male best friend began to cause problems in our relationship. Now, she's known the guy for a year before me granted, but the way they used to message and communicate was just not cool with me. He used to send her hugs and kisses, and so did she. Later, she told me that he actually used to like her at a point, which is not surprising, cause the guy's a complete chode.

So naturally, this didn't sit down too well with me. She used to meet him every Thursday, and they used to go for rides on his bike, and watch movies/eat icecream together. First, she was hesitant, but gradually, she moved away from the guy. Yes, she did end up hiding it from me a couple of times, but those occasions were few and far between. Time passed, and I had to move all the way from India to the UK for my studies. The ldr was tough, but she by and large, stayed honest to me. She lied twice about him, but admitted it both times. He was completely out of our life. We still had trust issues, though. Both used to ask each other for constant snapchats, to prove where the other is. Then, disaster struck. I ended up lying about a lot to this girl, and she completely lost it. In a moment of weakness, I had called for an escort, while studying in the UK, though things didn't get out of hand. She found out about my ways, and ended up tearing my passport. This led to complete pandemonium, and it took a lot of time for things to return to normal. I eventually ended up leaving the UK, and coming back for her, because she just meant that much to me. Since then, things were going great, and we were happier than ever before.

Two days back though, I began to suspect that she was talking to that dude again, and confronted her about it, albeit with humour. She blew her fuse and ended up saying a lot of stuff which provoked me. I lost it completely and called her a million times, shouted on the phone and called her residence at 3am. She went berserk the next day, and threatened to cut things off with me. I tried to reason with her, but she basically gave me an ultimatum- Let me talk to my male best friend, or leave my life. I just cannot imagine my life without her, and so I agreed. This is making me feel terrible though. I know how he is, and he definitely tries to brainwash her against me. He still likes her, and I fear that with his presence, things will never be the same between me and my girl again. I love her a lot, and she makes me happier than I've ever been. I just cannot imagine his presence in her life though. I really worry how it will affect things between me and my gf. I said yes at the moment, but am dying from inside, thinking of how terrible my life will be with them meeting like earlier again, and enjoying together.

She says that he is like a brother, but if that was the case, he wouldn't like her. I'm in such a dilemma. Should I break off with her, and prevent long term pain? She does want to marry me eventually. Or should I not care about the guy, and just be the same chilled dude I normally am with her. I make her laugh like no one else, and our sex life is pretty good. I really hope he doesn't spoil those aspects of our relationship. I just wanted things to remain the same, with him out of our life, but I blew it completely. My friends tell me to leave her, but I just can't, she makes me so happy sometimes, and I have nobody else either. I just sit at home in India, and meet her. I hardly have any friends here. What should I do? I know I am coming across like a real loser, but that's pretty much where I'm at right now!

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