Love Systems Were Smart

It finally dawned on me what has happened. I have been dating coach now close to decade, and i have been watching dating coaching as industry grow at very slow pace, only this year has i been seeing any significant change in prospective toward dating coaches. I keep trying to figure out the reason, since it didn't make any sense. There are still millions of singles, in new york alone 4 million are single, at least 10% of that are people who are able to paying for coaching, and probably want too. Why haven't they?

Lets look at it from a different angle, how many lawyers are there in NY? how many nail salons? bars? there are tens of thousands of lawyers, thousands of nail salons, tens of thousands of bars.

Now how many are the big, really develop dating coaching agencies in NY? two or three, and i assure none of us are making killing. At best, its good living. If there is so many people who can afford it, and in fact need it badly, why haven't it been that busy for even few agencies in NY that are there? Simple, peoples perception, dating coaches are viewed as pick up artists.

Why? here we have to thank the game and mystery show. Both are flashy, dazzling, fun, sexy, witty and incredibly negatively polarizing to anyone who is not in pick up world. It is very hard not to find some dirt on practically any pick up company. I did write up on Dr.Phill show on this blow few years ago, where they pretty much they made a laughing stock of love systems by bringing Ross "the creeper" Jeffries, love systems were smart and they played safe, playing up social aspect, and Dr.Phill was going along for first part of the show, and then he brought out the crazy Jeffries, and turned audience on the whole world of pick up. If you watch that show, you will see that crowd was partially supportive of love systems, but after Jeffies, there was only pure hate left.

Now lets trace it back to the game, the game came out, there was huge interest in media in the pick up artist world. Except when ever pick up artist would appear in media, there would either negative or at best, neutral spin. Even the good article would be laced with some words that can be taken as negative.

Lets define what is pick up artist is to average person - Dushbag, player, scum bag, manipulator, low life. If you mentioned anyone you were in pick up community, you would get immediate outpouring of hate on you.

Lets define dating coach- helps dating, improves social skills, social interactions, helps meeting new people, confidence boosting

Which one looks better? yes Dating coach, but which one is more exiting to write about? ahh, well pick up artist hands down. More tension, mystery, sex, excitement and a lot of controversy.

After the pick up artist show, it became almost comical at some point, people stopped taking pua seriously, more like a funny joke. Yet people bunched dating coaches and puas in the same boat.

It is very difficult to be taken seriously, when compared to puas.

Past few years it was getting better people begin to forget what puas are, and now it is about dating coach, next wave is coming up.

This is message for all coaching puas out there, if you are not a coach yourself but know someone, forward this post to him. This will make his work a lot easier and a lot more profitable.

The sooner you switch from pua lingo to normal talk, the sooner you will have more clients. Pua has reached its peak and has been in decline, the term pick up artist will never have a prestige, it never had it even at its peak. If you want to be part of the solution to the problem, start calling yourself dating coach, step away from "secrets of seduction" lingo and leave pick up community alone. Lets make it our battle cry, because until we do, people will be uncomfortable working with someone who's whole definition of profession is untrustworthy.Sign up for Pick up Future RSS feed.